The first day of any year is a weird and wonderful thing. Some people feel refreshed and raring to go. Bring it on they say and stare down the New Year with renewed energy and determination. Others look back at the previous year dwelling on all the things that have gone wrong. Regretting things that they did and wishing that they had done them better. Stop it! The best thing about the past is that it’s over. You did the best you could with the information and experience you had at the time. The important thing to remember is to take something away from any situation or decision that you think you regret. Otherwise, what’s the point of going through it? There’s a silver lining to every negative situation, you just have to make sure you have your eyes open so that you can see it!
Which brings me to the important bit…forgive yourself. Yes, that’s right…forgive yourself. Someone has to! You are your own worst critic and until you forgive yourself for whatever mistakes you think you have made, you won’t move on. Some people worry about what other people think but guess what…people don’t think about what you’re doing nearly as much as you think they do. The person’s opinion that really matters is yours. You’re with yourself more than anyone else. You talk to yourself all the time, whether you realise it or not. It’s called your internal dialogue. And guess what? You can control what you say to yourself and how you say it. So be kind to yourself. Talk nicely and forgive yourself for whatever it is you think you did wrong. Make it your new mantra for 2011…’I forgive myself’. It’s amazing how a few words repeated over time will make you feel different. You’ll see. You will begin to feel lighter, clearer and softer.
And one more thing. While you’re at it, forgive others as well. Grudges are a useless waste of your time and energy. In the lead up to your wedding there may be people that really annoy you and may not understand what you want, need and desire. Let it go. Forgive them for not being able to read your mind. They’re human, just like you and may not be psychic so communicate clearly, ask for help and accept people’s limitations…we all have them!
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